Kindly STFU. I realize that having a man may be the only thing making your world turn, but its not the end-all be-all of mine. I'm so sick of getting condescending remarks when people find out I am single. One more "oh, I'm sorry sweetie, I'm sure it will get better soon" is going to cause me to go all Buffy-the-Vampire-Slayer-Ass Kicking on someone. Being single is not cancer, i don't need it to get better. Also, I'm not contagious being friends with me will not cause you to break-up with your boyfriend.
This isn't the 1950s anymore. Women don't need men to have a life. I can go out and drink at a bar or go to a concert or eat dinner at a restaurant without a man. I certainly accomplished plenty without having a boyfriend. I don't need you to fix me. I don't need your advice, and I don't need you to set me up with some great guy you know. I'm not sitting at home crying every night because i'm single. I'm sorry your life is so pathetic that your world revolves around having a boyfriend, but mine doesn't.
I'm not single because i can't find a man. I'm single because i refuse to settle for some idiot who isn't good enough for me just to be in a relationship. On the plus side, I still get to get drunk and randomly makeout with people. I get to come and go as i please, and i don't have to worry about whether or not my Boyfriend will allow it. So Fuck Off
Sincerely,
Single Girls of America
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Amen sister!!!
WORD.
I'm sorry sweetie, it will get better soon.
I couldn't help myself.
I couldn't have said it better myself!
My favorite is the, "Oh, honey, I think you're just too picky..."
Um, no. I don't think it's too much to ask to not be treated like shit. So shutthefuckupthanksmuch.
I reached the last straw when I started getting text messages from my best friend's boyfriend (who I hadn't met) on her phone that said "Kirsti, I've found you a man. G--"
Really, random person I've never met? You honestly think you can do a better job of finding someone for me than I can???? Fuck you.
Or, to put it a shorter way, WHAT YOU SAID!
I LOVE IT!
Yeah, I agree with that.
Find the right one, not just anyone.
@Nicole- YEAH!
@NicoleS- LOL, i knew you'd understand my pain
@Kev- I am going to hunt you down and probably crotch punch you for that.
I kid I kid (not really)
@Bi- OMG, I would have bitched slapped anyone that said that to me. I'm sorry i'd rather spend time reading then waste time on some guy who'd rather get stoned then be with me (has happened).
Its so not to much to ask.
@Mel- Thats so obnoxious. He doesn't even know you. I would have yelled at my best friend for like an hour for that. Its so fricken condescending.
Also, he can't do better than you. Only you know whats good enough for you
@Jamie- Thanks, I love you!
@Chris- Thank you, at least some guy agrees with me! Do men do this to other men?
all the single ladies put your hands up!
Women need to learn how to live with out men! I find too many girls who rely on having a boyfriend, be your own person! Be fabulous and independent and awesome. A man can't make you. It is nice to have someone, but only when that someone is someone you want to be with, a man shouldn't complete you, you guys should grow together and be great together. So being single till you find that is fine.
I know how you feel. 24 and unmarried in my family is bodering on spinster-hood. And I don't even have a boyfriend yet, so they are all planning who's going to maintain me in my old age.
Bitches.
I'd say it depends. In my circle of friends, no. It doesn't really come up.
I'm sure there are guys whom, once they start dating someone, feel that they need to start introducing their friends to girls, so that:
a) they have someone to double-date with
b) they have another thing in common
c) (they have someone to complain about their girlfriend with)
I'm sure there are guys out there who do tease the people they know who aren't dating, but frankly, I've never really seen a reason to. And I'm the type of person who loves to tease, lightly anyway, all the time. Or at least often.
All your doing is reminding them again and again about something they don't have, whether because they don't want it or can't find it.
It's rather cruel to tell someone that they should be finding a boy/girlfriend. It's like saying "Hey, you can't be single. Go find someone to make your life complete. Because clearly its not complete yet. I should know, I'm complete!"
Ah well. I'm sure people think they are being supportive and reassuring about it. Perhaps some people don't have a problem telling them where to shove it, but when a girl, whom I know is kind/caring says it to me, I can hardly take offense. If they *aren't* kind/caring, well.. whole different story.
If a guy says it to me? Whole different story. (Kind/caring? Pfft.. like guys like that exist! [j/k])
Oh my god, I LOVED this post. I am the only person in my circle of friends who is not attached and while they have now calmed down, at one point they were all trying desperately to hook me up with the only other single person in the group (who is no longer single).
Whenever I say I'm happy being single people give me those looks (you know, the one that says 'I know you're just saying that to pretend to be strong') and it annoys me so much. Good on you for not wanting to settle - I see the dross out there and think 'I can do better'.
teehee i love this! makes me think of the dinner party scene in bridget jones: "so why are so many women over 30 still single?" "well...it must be that underneath our clothes we're covered in scales" :P
I broke up with my boyfriend. Instead of acting like hateful fools, we behaved in a very kind way; we talked to one another. He didn't want to break up, but since we've always been rather good friends, he didn't want to lose that. So we're friends.
People don't understand this at all.
I went to dinner with him at his parent's house on Monday. His mother says to me "I just want to say one thing, and then I won't say anything else about this: I think you're looking for 'perfect,' and you're never going to find that in this world."
This is from someone who enabled her son to behave in an extremely emotionally co-dependent way in his relationships...to the point of wussy-pathetic. Great friend, not great for a relationship with a very independent, headstrong woman.
To that attitude, I say "STFU!" To your post I say "Yes! Exactly!!!"
Inside of me, there is a single girl. And she is standing on a pool table - drinking, dancing, and screaming AMEN.
Independance rocks.
:(... i miss having a boyfriend though.
i think it might be because I have anxiety issues an I can't have one night stands.
Its not that I can't go and do things by myself and enjoy them. In fact, I do all the time. Traveling especially...
But I miss that connection with a man. A romantic connection. its definitely not something you can get from a friendship. It's an intensely private thing that's shared with just one person that a combination of attraction, admiration, and sheer want to be with them.
.. i miss it.
i can live without it. but i miss it.
being single right now sucks.
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